| A "relationship" between two people is
a "creation". This "creation"can be compared
to the same as that of two people getting together to create a "garden".
As a couple and as individuals, each in their own right equally
contribute to die making of this garden. This garden can be intelligently
cultivated or allowed to run wild, but whether the garden is well
tended or left to neglect: it will produce.
What is grown in the garden is largely pre-determined, and not totally
by chance. The couple will reap what they sow. The seeds sown in
the garden are either life-enhancing or life-defeating. If a balance
of life enhancing flower, fruit or plant seeds are sown, and nurtured
into blossom, the garden will be life sustaining. If only weed seeds
are sown then the garden will be a life-defeating one. Weed seeds
by their very nature quickly grow and rapidly reproduce, unchecked
they will eventually choke the valuable life from of any garden.
A prickle bush or a poison ivy patch are examples of weed seed gardens
in the extreme. I personally would not want to find myself to be
in either one.
Given the harm that weed seeds can do, continuous vigilance is required
by the couple to prevent weeds from infesting their garden. If a
weed is found, there is a definite need to pull and throw it out,
recognizing how quickly they grow and reproduce. If one of the couple
fails to recognize or pull the weed then it is the responsibility
of the other to do so; failing this the garden will eventually become
weed infested and non-life sustaining. The cultivation and maintenance
of the garden is critical, and requires a tremendous amount of effort
by the couple.
A garden that is weed infested can easily be renewed if the couple
commit themselves to pulling out the weed seeds and replacing them
with good seed. If one member intentionally or unknowingly keeps
sowing weed seeds the garden will eventually become weed infested.
If both sow weed seeds the garden will change for the worse that
much sooner. A weed infested garden can be renewed by the couple
if they start to pull out the weeds and sow life enhancing seeds.
Thus, the garden is made or unmade by the couple.
All gardens, like all relationships, range somewhere between life-enhancing
and life-defeating. By taking the time to observe and study this
range a couple can learn and decide what type of garden they want.
For this reason alone, all gardens, from good to bad are held up
to public scrutiny. Our basic senses of smell, sight, taste, touch,
sound, and academic perception will tell us whether the garden is
life enhancing or life defeating. Great care is needed with who
we choose to create a garden with; for that in itself, will determine
to a large extent the outcome of our garden. It is imperative that
each equally understands and implements the weed/mind cultivating
process of: discovering, uprooting, and disregarding.
Before we seek someone to create a garden with, it would be wise
to first prepare ourselves. If we were to compare a "seed"
to a "thought" and our "mind" as to our own
personal "garden". We can by using the same cultivation
process as mentioned above, make or unmake ourselves. Thoughts are
either life-enhancing or life-defeating. Who we are and what we
become is determined to a large extent by the thoughts that we choose
to think and act on. For the most part, the make-up of our personality
consists of the sum of our thoughts, thus associating ourselves
with right thought is imperative. Life-enhancing people think life-enhancing
thoughts, life-defeating people think life-defeating thoughts. Given
that we attract into our life what we project I for one would rather
be a life-enhancing flower than a self-defeating weed.
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